I’ve been through some tough times. There were things I said and did that I regret, and I know I crossed boundaries that hurt the people I cared about. Looking back, it’s something that weighs on me.
When I was younger, life wasn’t always easy. I didn’t have the best childhood, and I learned pretty early on not to rely on others for my emotional well-being. I wanted to be self-sufficient and handle things on my own, even if it wasn’t always the best choice. But I realize now that everyone deserves to have their emotional needs met and not feel alone.
Every person has their own boundaries when it comes to how they want to interact with others. It’s crucial to respect those boundaries and understand that they’re there for a reason. The boundaries we set for ourselves define our well-being as individuals. We need to take charge of our lives and establish the rules and boundaries that work for us.
At the same time, we all have emotional needs too. Sometimes they’re easy to express, but other times they’re buried deep within us. Whether through tears or laughter, people are often suffering in silence.
I’m grateful that I had people reach out to me when I needed it most, even though I wasn’t always the easiest person to deal with. They stayed by my side, even during moments of anger and resentment. As they say, suffering can make kind people. I’m not sure if that’s true in my case, but those who have been through tough times tend to be more empathetic towards others who are struggling.
However, conflicts can arise when intentions meet and boundaries clash. It can be uncomfortable and uneasy, but we must recognize that everyone’s feelings matter.
Lately, I haven’t been reaching out to others as much as I used to. Maybe it’s because I’ve learned some hard lessons, or maybe I’m burnt out. Regardless of the reasons, I understand that even with good intentions, we must respect other people’s boundaries. Just because we want to be there for someone doesn’t mean we have the right to insert ourselves into their lives.
In the end, everyone has boundaries that deserve respect. We need to recognize our place and others’ places in relationships. And sometimes, we must accept that we don’t necessarily belong within those boundaries. If someone decides that we don’t fit within their life, we must respect that decision and let them go, no matter how hard it may be.